The life of a human being is all about balance. The first being as
an tiny infant of 6 months of so when it tries to lift it head up and balance
the weight of its body in it. The infant tries to roll over and move forward.
The second major milestone comes at around 10-12 months when the baby learns to
balance its whole body on its two legs and stands up; this act gives him pure
joy and bliss. It’s first step towards being independent. The whole body is
like a balance beam and the little baby uses this to balance itself. This is
its first balancing act in the long list of other acts to follow.
The routine continues, the expectations have been set by the
society, the family and the world in general. First balance yourself, then
balance studies with competition and extra-curricular activities moving on to
balancing your higher education with teenage flings, girls friends, movies, fun
and a whole bunch teenage issues nagging you. The life that awaits us post this
age is nothing short of a tightrope walker.
Bringing into being the whole gamut of understanding and hope that
we so dearly believe and live by, we carry on with our lives. The moment we
land a job and get married, there comes the major balancing act of all. To
maintain the work life balance and do it in such a way as to not affect both
your professional or personal lives.
The whole concept of work life balance is derived from the idea of
prioritising. Why has it become such a big thing in the Indian corporate
scenario? Why are our corporate so focused on this?
Questions like the above keep cropping up and hence the various
stress management programmes or the work life balance workshops that keep
happening and employees are required to attend these. But do we really need
workshops to teach us how to balance our life and work? Will a couple of hours
discussion on work life balance be enough to ensure that we prioritise life as
per the diktats?
The more important thing that needs a change is the attitude. The
whole attitude of us sucking up to our seniors and pleasing them to no end. The
attitude of procrastination needs a change. The attitude of saying yes to
everything needs a change. The attitude of thinking beyond work needs a change.
Just harping on prioritising work and family life to maintain a balance without
giving up the attitude of drowning oneself in work is not going to lead us
This rule of prioritisation will work only if we feel that life is
more than work. If we for once say “no” to things and learn to trust others to
do the work. If we learn to delegate and also plan our work better, it will
help us make a good balance. If we choose for once to give it all up once and
enjoy the time with family, we might have achieved the goal of maintaining some
balance sans work.
It would also be a good idea to go for a family vacation once a year
(if not more). It would benefit if this is a ritual like brushing our teeth
every morning. All the hard earned money should not go to the investments,
always. It is a mark of a sensible person if he utilises the money earned
wisely, which includes having a family vacation once a year, without any office
work or any untoward work bogging us down.
Everything is possible; the only option being is to choose what we
want. Choosing wisely is important as it marks what we want to do. If we choose
to work and work more and drown ourselves in it, then it is our choice to
dis-balance the work and life situation. On the other hand, if we choose to
stow away some time and money for just having fun, it might lead a more healthy
and happy lifestyle. It would provide us with the impetus to work more
rigorously and enjoy the fruit of our hard work. Someone has righty said “work
hard and party harder”.
-Susmita Shroff Susmita Shroff is MBA
(Finance). She is a homemaker and freelance mentor. She writes for pleasure and
is a voracious reader.