"Marriages are made in heaven" is the famous quote
I heard in my teenage. Interestingly, sometimes I saw this quote on
marriage invitation cards as opening lines. This means you cannot foretell who will
marry whom; two people may love each other very much but may end up not
marrying each other; and two people who do not even know each other may
marry each other in the end. As far my personal views on marriage I could never
understand this institution. It seems very romantic when you attend the
ceremonies of a friend's marriage especially, the vows of Indian Hindu
marriage are very heart touching. Have you ever listened carefully the vows?
You will wonder that they are more in favor of women than man. They give more
space and rights to the woman. Everything is like a dreamland state. My many
friends are enjoying a happy married life. They are maintaining a good balance
in their in-laws joint family as well as their individual identity. But at same
time I find it harsh when I witness cases of broken marriages in society. After
listening to the relationship- issues of my clients when I ponder alone, I feel
marriage is a love-hate relationship.
I remember when we use
to read about marriage in our sociology class, and I use to feel proud that
marriage is not a social contract as it is in West but a sacred ceremony.
Marriage in Indian tradition is a religious duty first and economic and
physical needs comes afterwards. It is considered as pious and sacred. Marriage
is viewed as one of samskaras that is sacrament (there are 16 samskaras), which
is a lifelong commitment of one wife and one husband. So marriage has been
looked upon as having been made in heaven and considered as a "Divine knot
sanctified by fire".
Indian philosophy divided life span into four stages called "ashrams"
like Brahmacharya, Grihastya, Vanaprasthya, and Sanyasa. After taking education
and practicing celibacy during the learning period of Brahmacharya ashram, one
enter in Grihastya ashram that is marriage. So, marriage is a sacrament.
Its purpose is to create and develop a religious and spiritual outlook in life.
Marriage influences the personality of man and woman as life partners, enabled
them to take their rightful place in society. Thus the aim of marriage is
'dharma','praja'(progeny) and 'rati'(pleasure). Though sex is one of the
function of marriage it is given third place, indicating that it is least
desirable aim of the marriage. So, man and woman are bound in a permanent
relationship for physical, social and spiritual purpose of dharma, procreation
and sexual pleasure. According to Hindu scriptures marriage is a basic of all
religion activities. In this way marriage is primarily for the fulfillment of
duties, as the basic aim of marriage is dharma.
In Indian tradition, the child is given a very important place. According to
Riga Veda, the husband accepts the palm of wife in order to get a high breed
progeny. The Hindu scriptures have compared the sexual pleasure with relation
of Divine bliss.
Thus the ceremony of marriage is a firm uniting of two souls
such that after marriage the individual bodies remain as separate entities but
the souls merge into one harmonious whole. The behind the institution of marriage
in Indian tradition is to foster not self-interest, but love for the entire
family (and society). It is the love and duty cultivated for the entire family
that prevents break-ups. During the nuptial ceremony in a Vedic marriage, both
the bride and the bride-groom take an oath for the practice of self-restraint,
to work together the welfare of the family and Dharma and to help each other
attain Spiritual peace. So two people are destined to enter into marriage to
balance their Karma and support each other in spiritual growth to attain
ultimate goal of life 'Moksha'(enlightenment).
--Prathma Prathma is a Reiki & Karuna Reiki Master. She is practising and teaching Reiki & many other healing Modalities for last 15 years. As she is an expert in Reiki, Magnified Healing, Past Life Regression Therapy, Theta Healing, Angel Therapy, EET and EFT. She has formed a Spiritual Meditation Club in Batala, in which Group Meditation is practiced & taught to every member. Master Prathma has also taken meditation sessions in Leading IT companies in Pune (like KPIT, Mansoft & Sungaurd). She also works as a Student Counselor in Gems International School, Batala. She is also a Tarot and Angel Card Reader. You can reach her at firstname.lastname@example.org, http://prathmahealingzone.com/