human beings, we seek to satisfy both our physical as well as emotional needs.
As having a healthy body is important for us to perform our daily tasks so is
having an emotional balance is important for our lives. We are humans because
we have emotions. Now emotions, need nto be confused with desires. As the
dictionary meaning goes, emotions are feelings which we have and they can be
per Robert Plutchik's theory there are 8
emotions: joy, anger, fear, sadness, disgust, trust anticipation and surprise.
These are the basic emotions and they can again branch into various other
feelings that we experience as human beings.
Our emotional wellbeing is fairly dependent on a lot of factors. These
factors could be self generated or dependent on people around us. Emotional
wellbeing is always relative. It is associated with a thing or a person we are
attached to or we know of. No one gets emotional about things which are not
associated to them.
While we talk about factors affecting our emotional well being, it is
important to mention that these factors could surely make or break a person.
For us to have a solid emotional balance we must have an emotional anchor who
or which will hold us grounded no matter what. This emotional anchor could a
good friend, your spouse, children, pets, parents, your spiritual guru/god and
even work. There are many people who have gone through much emotional turmoil
in their lives and have still survived because they had a purpose in life. They
made their work the top priority over everything else and fixated their whole
being into getting quality work done. For such people, the dedication they gave
to their work ensured them an emotional high and kept them grounded, in spite
of huge personal losses.
For many of us, especially Indians, we find emotional satisfaction when we
give ourselves to the service of our spiritual gurus. For me personally, I find
immense peace and calmness when I just read through a few chapters of “Shri
Shirdi Sai Baba’s” biography “The Sai Satcharitra” or even if a simply chant
“Sai Sai Sai” slowly in my mind. That itself is enough to get me going from the
pits of emotional downfall. Just a look at the serene face of “Sai Baba”
uplifts my mood and I feel a sudden rush of emotional adrenaline. I get this
feeling of someone supporting me from within, who will never let go of me
whatsoever be the case.
There have been times when I have felt that life is so difficult, with nothing
to look forward to, there have been times when I have failed miserably and also
given up on things , given up on myself. However, each time I have pacified
myself by running to the refuge of “Baba”, be it in the form of my beloved
Guruji’s advise or reading the satcharitra or listensing to baba’s bhajans or
just simply sitting in front on his idol and crying to no end pouring my heart
out. Each time I have come out of my emotional turmoil more stronger to face
the world with a renewed rigor.
It is not easy to pull oneself out of emotional hurt and that is when most
people think life is not worth living and decide to put an end to it. I ask,
“what right do we have over our lives that we so easily take it away?” We came
to this world through a process not known to us. I believe that all of us have
a purpose to serve because of which we have been born humans. To serve that
purpose we will encounter pitfalls, hurdles, glitches, push back and failure.
What is important in this instance is not how we go through these obstacles,
but how we emerge out of them, emotionally and physically stronger.
Each one of us should find an emotional anchor and what best way than to
find a person who has already achieved their purpose in life and are capable of
guiding us in that path. It will help to ward off negativity and embrace life
in a more fruitful and positive way.
Susmita Shroff Susmita Shroff is MBA
(Finance). She is a homemaker and freelance mentor. She writes for pleasure and
is a voracious reader. She is currently pursuing a creative writing course.