Have heart people say when you are down to your deepest moment. They always are there. Your friends, your family, someone who cares is always around. The whole idea of having being born as a human being is to be social. We as humans cannot exist alone. We need to be amidst species of our kind. It beats us to live a life of a hermit, alone and sagely.
When you are down in dumps, totally dejected and rejected, who is it that you curse? Mostly your mis-fortune or maybe you curse God. Always blame someone else for your problems. That’s what we do. Never do we sit back and analyse the cause of the problem. We never see how to heal the battered heart. It is an expected reaction to keep pondering on the predicament but not expected to find a way out of it.
It is helpful to know that you have people around you and you are not alone. There is always the need to belong somewhere. There are various ways in which you can be hurt or your heart broken and an equal number of ways to heal yourself.
Talking to someone is great, if you are a kind of person who likes to talk. It is best to get the sorrow out of your system as soon as possible. Find a friend and just request him/her to only listen to you while you banter away, without any questions or judgement. If you are not the talkative type then take refuge in your diary or journal and jot down your frustrations to lighten yourself.
Give yourself a break. Go for a vacation to a destination you always wanted to go to. Go out with friends or alone if you can’t find someone to accompany you. Just leave the place or get away from the thing that is bothering you for sometime till you are capable of dealing with it. Once you are away from the object of botheration, your mind will automatically fixate itself to a new object of admiration.
Heal yourself by pampering your mind, body and soul. Enrol onto a wellness vacation. Enjoy blissful delight of spas and heal yourself through beauty treatments. This will help you enrich your body and calm your mind as well.
Choose a hobby. Find out what you are good at or something that you have been wanting to do for so long but did not get a chance to do in your busy schedule of work. When you are hurt, rather than recoiling into a corner, spring back with more determination by diverting your negative energies onto a hobby you have always wanted to have. It could as simple as going for a walk in the park everyday to learning to fly a plane. Go for adventure sports, if you are a fan of getting your dose of adrenalin through riskier ventures.
Always love yourself. It is important, especially at a time when you have been rejected or betrayed by a loved one. Your self esteem goes for a nose dive. You are at your most vulnerable at this stage. So it becomes pertinent that you do not lower yourself more in your in your own eyes. Do not feel that you are responsible for the all the wrong doings. Believe in yourself. There is no good friend of yours apart from you. Hence, feel the positive energy inside you always, more so in your times of distress. It will help you build a strong invisible wall around yourself, which will cocoon you from all the worst things that might befall you in future.
Know that change is the only constant. Everything is transient. If the good times did not last the bad times will not stay forever too. Time is a good healer. Give yourself and others time to ponder over the issue. With more time at your disposal, there will be no need to take decision immediately. Move with time. Learn to let go and you will see more space in your world to embrace new people. For time it has been said, when the autumn is here can the spring be far away.
-Susmita Shroff Susmita Shroff is MBA (Finance). She is a homemaker and freelance mentor. She writes for pleasure and is a voracious reader. She is currently pursuing a creative writing course.