We experience thousands of emotions everyday. With the
passage of time or bitter experiences, many people tend to become more
practical, analytical, cold and insensitive. This is the reason most of us have
lost our 'sense of belongingness’. Happenings around us hardly melt our hearts.
We have developed a lot in technology. It’s wonderful that we have become closer
because of technology. We can see and chat with our loved ones who are distant
from us. Our loved ones are just a phone call away. If somebody is travelling
he can stay in touch with his family and friends via sms or calls. Techology
has played a wonderful role in increasing connectivity. We should be thankful
But human contact is somewhere loosing its touch. People are
becoming more mechanical than emotional. Even if we have lots of friends on
social networks we are alone. I know lots of ladies who are going through
feeling of alienation not because they are alone at home.... but because of
lack of communication among family members. They feel ignored, helpless and sad.
They have spent their whole life in rearing and bringing up their families....
and now, when they expect little gesture of care and appreciation they feel
They kill time by sitting before the idiot box or going to
kitties, but still feel lonely.
This reminds me of Jagjit Singh's Ghazal.
Har taraf har jagah beshmaar aadmi,
Fir bhi tanhaayion ka shikaar aadmi...
Life is so strange, when we have all the luxuries, we are lonely.
All the family members watching TV in their private rooms. We can empathize
with our unknown Facebook friend but we don’t have time to sit with our old
mother and chat with her. We have time read jokes on whatsapp but do not have
time to cheer up our partner's mood. We need space for our healthy emotional
being but this space is increasing day by day. Our addiction to gadgets is more
than relationships now. We do not have time to read and share romantic poetry (shearo-shayeri)
among friends. Gone are days when silence use to speak among lovers. I wonder
When my married friends are chatting with me till late night...once I asked her
where is your husband? and she replied that he is busy in his phone calls...
I wondered as she has had a love marriage. The stress and
feeling of loneliness is resulting in depression and different other
psychological issues. This is also responsible for different health issues.
People do not feel safe to share their emotions, as they are afraid of being
mocked by others. We have to wear a mask of artificial smile.
Chehre ki muskaan pe yun na jayiye.....
Tair ta huya aankhon mein samunder bhi hai...
Now the question is how to deal with this depressing state
of loneliness. First of lets accept this fact if we are going through this
phase. Acceptance gives us courage to deal and solve the issues.
Lets understand that spending some time with ourselves is not loneliness. To
be with yourself is a healthy habit. If I’m not comfortable with my own self,
how can I expect that others will enjoy my company? Being with my own self is a
beautiful meditative experience. So set aside 10-15 minutes to be with your own
Love and appreciate yourself. Stop criticizing yourself. Practice
non-judgment towards yourself. Forgive yourself, sometimes it’s the most
difficult thing but it is most important. When you cultivate these feelings,
you will be creating positive vibrations in and around your Aura. This will
boost your positive self-esteem.
Cultivate your hobby. Never sacrifice to the extent that you
forget to spend time on your hobby. Your hobby is also part of your personality.
There are many who turn their hobby into career. So, keep on carrying your hobby.
You will not feel lonely.
Count your blessings. No matter how bad you feel about
yourself, still there must be something positive around you. Take a notebook
and start writing five good things happened with you. Make this a daily practice.
In few days your focus in life will be changed.
Share your emotions with your family. Do not put your ego
between relationships by hiding your emotions. Please do not expect from others
that they will understand your feelings without letting them know. Nobody is
psychic enough to understand without saying. We all have different sensitivity
level. So, Keep things simple. Clearly express your emotional needs. Your
family and friends are your support. So, with all right ask and receive in relationships.
Spend time with small kids. If you don’t kids in your own home.
Play with neighbor’s kids. Spend time in a park and kids playing.
Read positive books and do regular meditation/ prayer.
Create balance in your life. Eat one time meal together.
This will keep communication alive.
Life is beautiful. Life means sharing. Life means living
Happy Valentine’s Day!
-Prathma Prathma is a Reiki & Karuna Reiki Master. She is practising and teaching Reiki & many other healing Modalities for last 15 years. As she is an expert in Reiki, Magnified Healing, Past Life Regression Therapy, Theta Healing, Angel Therapy, EET and EFT. She has formed a Spiritual Meditation Club in Batala, in which Group Meditation is practiced & taught to every member. Master Prathma has also taken meditation sessions in Leading IT companies in Pune (like KPIT, Mansoft & Sungaurd). She also works as a Student Counselor in Gems International School, Batala. She is also a Tarot and Angel Card Reader. You can reach her at (M)09815489756, firstname.lastname@example.org, http://prathmahealingzone.com/