Author: Steve Pavlina

How To Attract Growth Oriented Friends

How to Attract Growth-Oriented Friends

A survey I did a while back revealed that about 40% of my readers have zero friends they’d consider growth-oriented, and another 20% only have one such friend. Many people who are attracted to my blog don’t have much social support for their personal growth pursuits. They often feel isolated...

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The Abundance Mindset

The “outrage script” is the mindset that balks at seeing someone spend $10,000 for a hotel room stay. It’s the mindset that would label this an extravagant or wasteful purchase. I believe this mindset is a huge mistake.

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Getting Started with a Lifestyle Transition

Here’s a mock conversation about getting started with a lifestyle transition, one that models many conversations I’ve had in the past. Friend: I really don’t like my job. Steve: Why not? Friend: The environment sucks, I don’t feel like my work actually matters, and I don’t feel connected with my...

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Why People End Their Relationships

At a workshop in Mexico last month, I invited the audience to brainstorm a list of reasons for ending a relationship. Why do people break up? The group came up with about 40 different reasons. I’m sure if we kept going, we could have come up with dozens more. I also...

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Staying Conscious While Under Attack

How can I maintain high self-esteem in light of frequent negative external feedback? I try to maintain a positive attitude, but I’m so easily brought down by those around me. Their words and actions often trigger me to